Since No Contact doesn`t work for every situation, here are 8 signs to know when NC doesn`t work: So trust that the no-contact rule is good for you and your ex. Trust that dumpers and dumpees will give them exactly what they need after the breakup to process the separation and be happy. If there are no unfinished transactions between two people, it is difficult to sell a case for the no-contact rule. Hi Annica, no, that doesn`t mean he`s moved on when he`s on dating sites, a lot of exes use this as a distraction from their breakup feelings. It may be able to reverse, but you need to follow the program to make this change possible. No single contact will get your ex back. Your non-contact would only count from the days you stopped checking their posts on social networks, dating sites, etc. You must have 30 solid days where you have nothing of him. Then move on to the text phase that Chris suggests in his articles.

Speaking of new people, another way to handle this is to date someone new. Just because things don`t work with someone else doesn`t mean you`re not wanted. You don`t need to make an appointment with the intention of entering into another relationship. However, they just go out to enjoy someone else`s company and have fun! You still owe it to yourself to live your life. That`s why it`s the perfect time to pursue new hobbies and focus on your personal goals. The more you focus on yourself, the easier it will be to successfully go through the no-contact rule. The « contactless » will work if you have been released, because you will miss them after a few weeks without contact. Now you wonder if no contact really works, or at least if it worked in your case. As a general rule, listen to your girlfriend. Do not refuse small ailments, because ignoring them will lead to a compilation of the reasons that cause a loss of attraction. This will quickly make them realize that the separation is a little different than what was planned.

They might have thought you would crawl and beg them to bring you back. They may have imagined that they continue to reject you, always flattered by your attempts to change their minds. You certainly didn`t expect to seem okay with the breakup and stop all contact with a 30-day no-contact rule. This plays on their expectations and leads to emotions they didn`t expect, and this is where the no-contact rule really works. After waiting a week without contact, you simply « join » him. If he does not respond to this « stretch », then you will have no contact for two weeks, you will have to let your relationship rest and work on yourself. Jealousy tricks and reasoning won`t work for her. Wait for her to approach you if she chooses to do so. If she doesn`t come into contact, that`s it. There is nothing you can do about it. Hi Zan, I`m going through some tough times. So my ex-girlfriend broke up with me 7 months ago in January and she started a new relationship at the end of March where she seems to be really happy, at least I think.

I`m 33 years old, she`s almost 28. Her new boyfriend is 35 years old. I said, I think because I had it not once, but twice from her ex-boyfriend. So I`m starting to think the same thing could have happened. The breakup was definitely my fault, well, I never cheated on it, but I made promises that I didn`t keep. Basically, I had an addiction to drugs, weed, which was very debilitating. And so, after our first argument, I promised him that I had stopped. I started seeing a therapist and managed to stay away for 6 months, then I started again and soon after she found out we were having a short argument, but we managed to get over it and honestly, the relationship seemed to be going even better from that point on.

During last summer, I had a lot of work, I only had two days off in three months, and, my bad, I resumed the same habits so this time I was discovered shortly after, this time we argued for almost a month and then we started again, also this time when we met again, things seemed even better I set up a company in Capri (Italy) a B&B (we were both colleagues). in a hotel) and we should have made it our first stone together and we talked about marriage and children, we took a bit of a holiday for ourselves and until Christmas things were wonderful. Two days after Christmas, she caught Covid, and even though I was negative, I had to isolate myself and I couldn`t stay with myself because my mom had cancer, and it was too risky for her, I lost my father suicidal in 2018 After 5/6 days alone, I moved in with her and stayed there for about a week, We had some arguments (I was in jail for 6 months when I was 23, so forced solitary confinement is something that really affects me). When we came out, she asked me to talk as she was still struggling to trust me after my mistakes, but eventually we decided to keep trying. Unfortunately, my younger sister became pregnant with a man 30 years her senior, who treated her very badly, so I had my thoughts in a completely different place. On January 23, we went on a day trip where I didn`t say a word in 14 hours together and three days later she left me. I had direct contact, even though I started making weed again during that time and after three weeks she wrote to me because her brother`s partner had given birth to two wonderful twins, and she didn`t want me to find out about it from anyone else. I replied very coldly, but then I sent a very nice message to his mother and brother. And after a few days, I went to see her to surprise her.

We had a great time and agreed to keep in touch. So on Valentine`s Day, I sent her a flower and a gift with a letter. The next day we met and we were good, we kissed and hugged for hours and she asked us if we wanted to start again casually. I said it was better, no, since I wasn`t ready, I was still in a very bad place, also because my mom was starting to get worse. But we both agreed to stay in touch and think about it a little more. Like 4 days later, I met her outside a discotheque, right behind my house, with her brother, some of her friends, and I had a very bad reaction because I was very jealous and I never liked any of them. We also argued via text message all night when leaving, but the next day we decided to see each other at the end as it couldn`t be the end of something so beautiful. So we met two days later and parted ways. On March 8th, for Women`s Day, I brought her flowers and all her friends and we had a nice conversation, then 3 days later I asked her for coffee but she said no and I completely panicked, so we had an argument. On April 2nd, I noticed that she had deleted all my photos and the photos together from Instagram. And I confronted her and after asking her, she said she started dating someone else, and that`s why she did.

So I asked a mutual friend to talk to her the next day, but she said she just wanted to get on with her life. A week later, I wrote to her to tell her that my mother was even worse and that the situation was quite desperate, but we argued again because she didn`t believe me and Taught was a way to win her back. A week later I brought her a letter to her workplace and at first she was happy, but we argued again when she said it must be a yes for me because insecurity wasn`t enough for me either, so later that day we also got into an argument on the phone and she finally blocked me everywhere. I even asked my sister and ex, who saw that I desperately wanted to talk to her. And I made things worse. On May 2, the day after my birthday, my mother died and she didn`t even write to me. So two weeks later I saw her scooter and waited for her, I apologized for what I had done, but I also asked how she could ignore such a circumstance, she said that my sister and my ex were the straw that broke the camel`s back, also because I was always a very confident guy and she didn`t see this guy anymore. She asked me what you wanted from me, and I answered. And she reminds me of her boyfriend I said I was not afraid of confrontation with anyone, she then told me that she was happy with hello, but the most important thing is that she is at peace and does not lose sleep because she thinks I can lie to her or that I can fight with someone (I am very angry), And she`s gone. Big a month later I met her in a supermarket and when she saw me she came to say hello and I could tell in her eyes that she was really emotional, so I found her outside and asked her for coffee when she refused and said we had nothing else to discuss I even wanted to get the keys to her scooter, So that she stayed, but I stopped immediately.

And she`s gone. Two or three days later I met her and just told her that she (I was on my bike and didn`t even put my feet on the ground how small I was), I`m sorry for the last time. And then I left. I went to my best friend`s bar where we spent a lot of time together and 3 minutes after seeing her pass by and seeing if I was there, when our eyes met she ran away. Three weeks later, I decided to try my luck again and got a new cell phone number and sent him a random text asking for coffee again. Her boyfriend called me, but honestly, the guy isn`t the smartest guy in the world and probably not so brave that I definitely turned him off. It looked like I was the one making the call. From that moment on, even though we met 4 or five times, I never stopped saying hello to her, even though she has a very strange attitude. I move with an electric buco she has a powerful scooter and she always stays behind me but she never passes me once it has taken maybe 300 meters.